If you are married, you may have discovered why marriage is so important and experienced some of the good that comes from it.
Or, maybe marriage was hard for some of you and you’re no longer married.
However, there is hope. But that hope starts with realizing that marriage can be more amazing than you have experienced or even thought.
His Imperial Majesty , Iku Baba Yeye, the Alaafin of Iyo, Oba ( Dr ) Lamidi Olayiwola Adeyemi 111 (CFR), ( AVATAR PERSONIFIED) and his better half , Queen Ramat Adedayo Adeyemi ( Iyalekoto) had been married over 50 years ago, and have experienced both the amazing as well as the very hard.
Marriage eliminated loneliness for the Paramount Ruler and his amiable Queen.
While the Alaafin is an Octogenarian, his wife (Ayaba) is a Septuagenarian, as both are more effective in working as a team versus working as individuals.
Through challenges, they have both matured. And a side bonus, they have wonderful children that came from their union. Those are all good and wonderful, but I’ve also discovered something even greater.
I believe God has created marriage to reveal more about Him and how awesome He is.
And this is revealed through many of His purposes for marriage. Here
Marriage is the beginning—the beginning of the family—and is a life-long commitment.
It also provides an opportunity to grow in selflessness as you serve your wife and children. Marriage is more than a physical union; it is also a spiritual and emotional union.
When a man and woman get married, the “two become one.” Marriage is a bond like no other. It gives us a life partner, a teammate, as we move through the challenges of life together.
Marriage is designed for purity. We face temptation nearly every minute and from all directions.
Iku Baba Yeye and Queen Adedayo understand that the bond of marriage gives the support to defeat temptation by engaging in deep, satisfying love—a love that gives to, and receives from, our mate physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
Hence, both still remain like SIESMEN TWINS after holy matrimony of over half century.
It is indeed wonderful!
It is however disheartening to note that roughly 40% of children being raised today are in a home without a father.
The effects of that fact are staggering. Father absence causes increases in mental and behavioral disorders as well as criminal activity and substance abuse.
But when children are raised in a healthy marriage, like the Alaafin and Queen Adedayo, and other Ayabas, they get a front row seat to see and experience the lasting benefits of a strong family.
But why does the institution of marriage crumbles these days?
Breaking up is hard to do, but divorce? That takes the cake. All kinds of things can lead to a split, from the token celebrity-cited “irreconcilable differences” to a messy affair, or the loss of anything remotely close to the spark you felt in the good old days.
And often, the reason you cross the line from forever to never again traces back to dating days.
Sometimes people want a divorce for the same reason they might have had doubts of going into the relationship,
The crux of any relationship is communication, Cohen says. Sure, you typically hear reasons for divorce like money disagreements, commitment issues and the other things in this list, all rooted in a breakdown of communication.
Others include, ack of commitment, / Infidelity / Extramarital affairs, Distance in the relationship / Lack of physical intimacy Communication problems between partners/
Domestic violence, verbal, physical, and emotional abuse by a partner.
Others are realization that one’s spouse has different values / morals /Substance abuse / alcohol addiction/ Absence of romantic intimacy / love/ One partner not carrying their weight in the marriage/ Financial problems / debt/
Marrying too young/ Lack of shared interests / as well as incompatibility between partners
In an exclusive interview with some divorced respondents in Oyo town, they cited a lack of love or intimacy as the reason for their separation.
Why Do People Cheat?
This is an aspect where kudos must be given to the Alaafin.
Without trust, what’s left? Iba Adeyemi has NEVER given room to an affair that can feel like the ultimate betrayal and sign that healthy communication skidded to a halt.
The Monarch will not allow any breakdown in communication, which often leads to people feeling desperate, so they criticize or get angry or make demands.
Psychologists postulated that once empathy and compassion for one another take a nosedive, “it’s very hard to come back together.”
This Iku Baba Yeye has jealously been guarded and guided against .
People in long-term marriages are generally not just walking out on their marriages for the heck of it, but on financial issues.
How (and when) you spend it, save it, or make it. Money is one of those things that can easily trigger tension in a marriage.
Disagreements about finances make matters dicey, especially when it gets in the way of working together as a team.
Someone might think their partner spends too much, another might be worried about their partner’s debt, and, in some cases, couples can’t compromise about what to spend their money on.
To the Alaafin, Queen Adedayo (Iyalekoto) and all other Ayabas, including their In-laws are not only well catered for, they are Jewels of Inestimable Values to the Paramount Ruler.
*Bode Durojaiye is the Director of Media and Publicity to His Imperial Majesty, the Alaafin of Oyo.
